I am stubborn, and proud of it!!!

People declare,
"I am stubborn!"

-like it is a badge of courage! 


"a distinctive emblem worn as a mark of office, membership, achievement, licensed employment, etc."

We BRAG About Being Stubborn.   
..... like it is a virtue!!!!  

OR,

We declare it is inherited, it is a trait that has basically been passed down and can't be avoided. 

I can't point fingers.... because

I am sure those fingers would point right back at me.  

BUT.....

When we so proudly declare,

I AM STUBBORN.....

-let's call a spade a spade. 

From Wiki:   

To call a spade a spade ...is a figurative expression which refers to explicitly calling something as it is,^[1]

 by its right name.^[2][3] 

Honestly, 

We declare, "This is the way I have always done it..."  
(implying that we cannot change).   
Really?   
Is it that?   
Or we
CHOOSE not to change? 

Or, we declare- 
I will do this no matter who it affects or how it effects someone else because 
that is what I want...

Let's call it what it is. .   .  

"I am going to do what I want, when I want, the way I want."

We proudly like to call it "being stubborn."   

What it is:   

Selfish.   

self·ish

ˈselfiSH/

adjective

1. (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.

   
   

   synonyms:

   egocentric, egotistic, egotistical, egomaniacal, self-centered, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-seeking, self-serving, wrapped up in oneself;  inconsiderate, thoughtless,unthinking, uncaring, uncharitable;  mean, miserly, grasping, greedy, mercenary, acquisitive,opportunistic;

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When stubborn becomes an excuse to just do what ever we deem is most important to us at the time,

irregardless of how it may affect others...  

it is not a gold badge, 

it is not an inherited trait.    

What it IS....

It is a choice. 

And the CHOICE is:

What ever we want to do, 
is most important.  
We are going to do it no matter
who it could negatively effect. 
We are going to do it 
and DECIDE that it caused no harm to anyone.
We are going to DECIDE that it caused no stress to anyone.
We are going to do it
because that is what we want to do. 

It is selfish.