Furious

I was furious about something my spouse was doing.
And I could not get him to stop.

"A woman does not find her her life in her husband.
She cannot find in him, look to him,
for only what God can supply.
As long as her desire is to (control, contain,possess) him,
is set on him, the needs she so desparately longs for cannot be met.
If she somehow molded him into what she wanted,
her lust would not be satisfied.
It is a lust to control.
Lust can not be satisfied.

When a woman's heart is turned,
when she sets her desire back on God,
a new freedom will come.

The grasping will be gone from her voice and her attitude.  
She will be able to move into relationship with her husband
based on wholeness rather than
inappropriate neediness, hurt, and woundedness.

She will be able to speak into her husband's life
with more effectiveness because
her worth and identity no longer depend on his response.
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Free now, she is able to be the help to him
When the woman stops looking to her husband for needs
he cannot meet,
she frees him to meet the ones he can,
the need for intimacy
and the shared responsibilty for the marriage and the family."   
-Jane Hansen A Gentle Spirit

"See the good in others.  
Love, Laugh, make the world, your little world happy.
As ripples caused by a flung stone stir the surface of a whole pond,

so your joy making spreads in ever widening circles,
beyond all your knowledge,
all anticipation.
Joy in Me.
Such joy is eternal.
Centuries after,
it is still bearing Joy's precious fruit."  
 -God Calling